As a Relationship Counsellor and an evangelical declutterer, I am a passionate advocate for the profound psychological benefits of decluttering and organising our homes.
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The other day a friend asked if I could recommend a good counsellor (ethically therapists can’t work with people they know personally). My go-to referrals were fully booked so I wrote my friend an email sharing some tips of how they could go about finding a good one. I realised it could be useful to share these tips more widely as there will be lots of other people out there who are unsure of where to begin.
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I wanted to share an article that is one of my absolute favourites to share with my couples. I love the simple but powerful distillation of research that shows high levels of kindness and generosity are good predictors for happy, healthy long term relationships.
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Psychologist Arthur Aron and his team devised an experiment to see if it’s possible to foster increased closeness between two people.
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The topic of personal boundaries features heavily in my counselling work. Those of my generation and older were not really taught, as children, the importance of setting boundaries; thankfully in schools today children are given the language and tools to understand and speak about boundaries, in particular around their bodies.
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Commonly, at the beginning of a new piece of couple work, I find myself talking to my clients about pace.
Not always, but often, clients hang on until they are at breaking point before seeking some professional help, and this brings a tremendous sense of urgency to our early sessions.
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"Our low mood, lethargy or self doubt is not down to a lack of moral fibre, we are in long-term psychological distress as we are living far outside our natural habitat.
Humans need other humans, like fish need water and birds need sky."
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A close friend of mine is in the early days of processing the recent, unexpected loss of a dear friend.
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